Look Up

The third week celebrating The Coming, The Visit, is here.

My Adventus journey began this week with a question.

“So which candle is it?”


Some say we’re supposed to light the Peace candle this week.
Others say it’s the Joy candle.

Pink? Purple?
What if I light the wrong one?
Will I miss out on something if I don’t celebrate….correctly?
What does this little detail matter if I end up with a greater measure of peace and joy in the long run?

‘Tis the season not to be derailed by the details.

Is the tree straight?
Did the wreath get hung on the front door?
Where is that recipe for the latest, trending cookie?
Is this the best little Christmas card ever?

I’m checking my list and checking it twice.
Three, four, five more times. Check. Check.Check.
Must. Get. Everything. Done.

The candles may be lit, but it is peace and joy that goes up in flames.
When we are derailed by the details it is peace and joy that are snuffed out.
Ashes, ashes….we all fall down.

It is the only time of year that we strive to bless someone with the perfect gift, try new recipes, re-decorate the whole house, shop ’til we drop, and put on plays and pageants and productions, all at the same time.

It is here that peace and joy can get lost among the packages all tied up with string.

Getting derailed by the details has its root in this one thing:


Just simply forgetting that peace and joy are a Person.

We cannot and never will be able to conjure up peace or joy or real love or hope in anything else, no matter how beautifully it twinkles, no matter how heavenly it smells, no matter how many loved ones made it home in time for the roast beast.

The only way to know joy and peace and love and hope any time of the year is to know Jesus. To know Him is to hang out with Him.

A friend did a teaching once about losing Jesus.

She referenced the story when Joseph and Mary are making their way home after their pilgrimage to Jerusalem for the annual Passover celebration. Three days into the journey home, Joseph and Mary realize they cannot find Jesus anywhere. At this time Jesus is around twelve years old and presumably didn’t need to be under the constant watch of his parents. However, three days without checking in proved disconcerting for Jesus’ parents, so when they discovered he was nowhere to be found, they did the smartest thing they could do:

They went back to the place they last saw Him.
In the temple. Hanging out with the smart guys talking about God.
About His Father’s business, like always.

This Jesus…is our peace. Our Prince of Peace
This Jesus…is our Joy…the tidings of which the angels heralded to shepherds one night.

Losing Jesus does not mean He is lost to us forever. In our humanity it may take a few days to recognize that we are joy-less, peace-less. We need to go back to where we last saw Him

When we’ve said yes to Jesus, we are never really without Him. He never leaves us, but like the shepherds watching their flocks by night and taking care of the details, perhaps we need to look up from what it is that we are doing.

When You’re In A Tight Spot

It’s close in here.

Re-arrangements. Re-groupings. Sometimes it fits…other times, not so much.

When life shifts the view changes. And that can make for one tight squeeze.

In the early morning hours sleepy bodies do the awkward dance between polite and annoyed. It’s easy to get bumped in tight quarters. One needs breakfast, another needs to make a lunch, and a third is trying to make their way to the laundry room to get a jump start on the piles building up in the hamper. A fourth, the littlest, needs a reminder to brush his teeth when the fifth one gets out of the bathroom.

It is a juggling, jostling, why was that left there; there are no more eggs….again; who’s turn is it to do the dishes, kind of place.

Words can be sharp here. Faces can frown quickly here.

It is a place where the pressing and the squeezing become a refiner’s fire that can sharpen us only in the best of ways if we let it.

We just have to be willing to go to the flames.

It is the second week of Advent and I am thinking of Joseph and Mary and their own re-arrangement, their own displacement.

So often their journey to Bethlehem looks so….pretty.

The holy couple, the two of them traveling alone against a tranquil desert backdrop seemingly lost in their thoughts about the baby about to be born.

No other travelers.

No one to share the road with, no one to whisper why must we go back to our birthplace to be counted by a paranoid despot?

No Roman Soldiers in the background showing their muscle. No one is doing the awkward dance of politeness and annoyed because everything is Just. Too. Close.

Yet, the narrative hints that Bethlehem was teeming, a town so full that there was no room in any of the inns.

Perhaps, then, the journey looked more like this:

Long lines of strangers piled up under the glare of soldiers making sure they tow the line.
Stuff everywhere.
On backs, on donkeys, on carts, and on wagons.
People smells.
Animal smells.

A woman who is nine months pregnant knows the pressure of her unborn child pressing down into her pelvis. To sit on the bony back of a donkey for miles, every bump and snag in the road sending spasms of pain through her body is not pretty. Did the pressure of her circumstances bring forth any sort of harshness from her lips? Or do the paintings of her have it right, instead? Ethereal. Blissful in blue. Immune to the human condition?

A man who wants to do the right thing, who allows himself to be caught up in a drama he did not ask for…does this man ever succumb to the frustration of not being able to secure safe lodging for his wife and unborn child by crying out, “Are you kidding me?”  “What is going on? This is so…..stupid!”

They were, after all, just a couple of humans carrying the divine.

Was the NO ROOM AT THE INN the last straw?
When all is said and done, straw for straw…when you’ve done everything you know how to do…when you’ve said yes to the hard thing…is this where you end up? In the back of a cave…tucked into obscurity? How is that for a tight squeeze.

It is what I am trying to hang onto when I light the second candle.
When I am squeezed it is an invitation to let go.
To submit to the refining work of God is an invitation to be who I am really supposed to be.

All the impatience and frustration comes to the surface and I get to decide.
Will I deny the work that needs to be done in my heart or will I give in to the flames and embrace the forging that brings me….just another traveler on this planet closer to being a human carrying the divine.

Small Things

The first snow of the year came on a Friday. There wasn’t much to it, really, just enough sparkle to pretty up the place. Most of it was gone by noon, except for a few places in the back yard where the ground had frozen overnight and daylight hadn’t hit hard enough to melt anything. I will have to wait until Spring for all that.

The trees in front have shed most of their leaves and when dawn breaks, I can see the hard outline of the branches against the gray blue sky. The hydrangeas and lilies have been cut to the quick and the old wooden tub where the herb garden grew has been put out back.  Leaves crackle underfoot releasing the scent of the earth and musk. Milkweed stand burst open, yawning white tendrils shiver in the breeze. Black eyed Susans bend thin, leafless. Yellow mums that were blooming on Monday froze on Thursday. Everything is getting smaller now.

I feel small, too.

My wedding ring swirls around my knuckles now that the humidity of summer and autumn has gone. I usually lose weight in the winter, noshing on roasted vegetables and drinking lots of hot tea. The ice cream store is closed now, but I’d rather eat a biscuit drenched in Barry’s Tea this time of year anyway.


Just days before that first snow, I’d hiked up my britches and finished up the raking, putting piles of tiny pine cones in the wheel barrow. The tines of the rake scraped the ground hard. I lifted the rake and there in the debris was a tiny bird’s nest. Barely big enough to hold a walnut.

Perfectly round. Intricately woven.

What little bird could have made it?  Even the sparrow makes a bigger nest.

It is a marvel to me; how something so small could make something so intentional. So artful.


I think of other small things and the power that lives within them.



A flame.

A child.


A smile.

One. Kind. Word.

I’ve pulled the last of the geraniums from the window boxes. They’ve become hollow, gaping.  Like me, they need a re-filling. They need a promise. They need to be filled with a tangible hope that all has not gone to ashes for nothing.

In a landscape washed in browns and grays,  I look for red. My eyes narrow over the fields on Rte 11. They have become practiced in spotting winterberry tucked back into the swamps.

I love these little scarlet orbs, their blood-redness shouting against the dead things, “There is life here, still.” 

Sometime in late October I begin looking for them. This year I scan the fields near Quaker Ridge Road. Nothing. On my way back through town I eyeball both sides of Jordan Road. Barren. I think maybe the birds have gotten to them already. Finally, I spot a small bush tucked into the marshes not far from my house. I hurry home to get rain boots and branch cutters. Back in the woods and wading through mud and ice, small branches snapping back in my face, I lift the cutters as high as I can possibly reach and snip my winter bouquet. I grab some evergreens before heading home to fill the window boxes with something pretty again.

I go through this every year…looking for something beautiful in the decay. For weeks I anticipate the berries and wonder, maybe there won’t be a good crop this year. Maybe I will be too busy to get into the woods and I will miss them.

Then, suddenly, they’re there.  It’s as if they’ve come on the scene all at once, in all their red-coated glory.

I think about waiting and how small it can feel. When what you want takes a long time coming the waiting can shrink down into this thing that becomes a part of the fabric of your life, such a piece of the furniture of your soul that you forget when it finally arrives you will have to do some re-arranging.

You will need to make room for what’s coming.

This is Advent.

Adventus.  A Coming. A Visit.

He was so small, The Ancient of Days and The Lifter of my head, unable to lift His own when he came. His coming, His visit, had been foretold for so long that it became just another hope taking it’s sweet time getting here. For many it was easily missed.

Yet…Three Kings.

Three wise men narrowing the eye.

Scanning the heavens. Remembering the prophecies. Looking at both sides of the road.

Did they wonder if they had missed it? Did they ever think that maybe the timing was off? Yet…they kept looking. They kept moving forward.

They kept preparing for a holy visitation.

Red berries splashed against the bark of trees speaks of what happened when another red orb splashed against a splintered cross. They are a reminder that the One who said He is The Way, The Truth and The Life has come.

Advent helps us to look. It helps us to prepare. It helps us to truly believe before seeing.

It is the only way to wait for anything. It is the only way to celebrate the power of small.

Stumbling In The Waning of Dawn’s Early Light

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The cast iron pan takes the butter and I lift the pan handle to swirl the melting yellow; frothy and waiting. I am making pancakes. A frost has come in the night and the furnace rumbles underneath the floorboards and I want pancakes with blueberries. First light is barely scraping over the trees in the front yard. It is a sign of what is to come; that darkness will arrive early and leave late. Autumn, despite her radiance, sounds a trumpet heralding the coming winter in her falling leaves, dead underbrush and diminishing light. It is in the diminishing that I am beginning to feel small, too.

I pour creamy batter into the butter pooled pan. The medallions crisp up around the edges. I spoon wild blueberries on top of each pancake because I am teaching today and I don’t want the tips of my fingers stained blue,even though the kids would probably get a kick out of it. They love asking about every scrape or wart or wrinkle they see on me, yet it’s funny they don’t think me old. And I’m not, really; but there are signs pointing in that direction. I flip the pancakes and push brew on the coffee pot. I squint at the back window trying to see the thermometer. I may need more than a sweater today.

There is only black.


I grab a white plate from the cupboard and flip the pancakes onto it. A lost blueberry sizzles in the pan. I stab it with my fork as nothing will be wasted this morning. The pancakes need more butter, of course, and as it slides off the top pancake, I pour the syrup. I’d  finished up the real deal earlier, so I am left with the store bought stuff. I try to console myself that it doesn’t contain high fructose corn syrup. No matter. It’s not and never will be the same.

I place the plate, steaming, on the counter. The coffee is done. I pour cream and watch the swirl of white and black mix into each other to make a new color. I see that the kitchen is brighter. My husband bought me new light bulbs. They are the kind that illuminate a room as close to natural sunlight as can be contained in a tube of twisted glass and wattage. I didn’t ask him to buy them, he just presented them to me the other day. I wasn’t thinking the bulbs we had needed changing out, but then he said the new ones might help. Help with what, I wondered. When he twisted out the old for the new it was then I remembered. Like a deer that thirsts for water, I thirst for light.


In the summer it is so easy. I wake at dawn. I am unable to stay in bed in anticipation of all that might transpire, the encounters I will have, the joy of working at something percolating, spilling.  I always stand at my kitchen window with a steaming mug, absorbing the sky, the trees, the birds. But now that darkness enshrouds the morning, I linger on the pillow. I wait until I absolutely must get up. I stand at the kitchen window and there is nothing to absorb. I cannot see a thing past my reflection enveloped in a coffee steam cloud staring back at me against the black.

I feel thirsty.

It is not that I am immobilized by the lack of light, but I do feel a weight. I know that many suffer long and hard this time of year. I don’t pretend to know the depths of that sort of suffering.  I am acquainted, however, with a melancholy that wears like a too-heavy coat on a too-warm day. It is in October when I begin to spend the better part of the next three months fighting to keep the coat from suffocating me.

The truth is, I am a follower of Jesus and I am a stumbler.  I stumble to find beauty in ashes. I stumble to find peace in the storm. I stumble to maintain joy even though I am following hard after the most Joyful, Peaceful, Beauty-Finder there is. I am like Peter, the great Stumbler, who realized that the only way to move forward was to keep his eyes on Jesus the whole time.

Fixed, is the word.



Not. Coming. Off.

How to stay fixed looks like me grabbing His Word, His light-unto-my-path- promises over and over and over again. It looks like me shedding my wants to bless another’s needs.  It looks like me not giving in to the stumbles of fear blaring ebola, devastating weather patterns, or invading terrorists. It’s me accepting sunshine light bulbs from a husband who remembers what I want to forget.

This is where I find Jesus, the Redeemer of all Stumblers, who restores my soul, lifts me from all my stumblings and reaches past all my gropings in the waning places.

The Strategy of Retreat

We, my friends, are at war.

Think about life and the things we must do to confront, engage, defend or advance upon just to stay sane, and for some, to stay alive. The externals are enough to bring the stoutest of heart to fainting.
Tornadoes and drought and double hurricanes. Oh. My.
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Then there are the things that reside closer to home, the stuff that lives in the interior, underneath the surface of maintaining the status quo.
Hard relationships.
Health issues.
Finances and jobs and family blow-ups. Oh. My.

What is there to be done when one is hemmed in, pressed upon, backed up against?


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Some are inclined to fight harder with shoulders braced and stomachs knotted.
Some are inclined to voice complaint upon complaint upon complaint in a never ending swirl of social media soup.
Some are inclined to deny the pain of being human with plastered smiles and Pinterest perfection.


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Who has considered the power of the blank spaces? The power of the pull back? The genius of getting low?
Who has considered the strategy of retreat?

General George Washington recognized the strategy of retreat when he engaged his troops against much superior British forces during the Revolutionary War. Washington held the belief that as long as he kept a working army on the ground there was always a chance England could be defeated. This meant that his army was never in a position where they became trapped without a means of escape. Washington’s goal was to always have an army ready for another day. He employed several retreat missions…what looked like running away…to keep his troops alive and in the end be able to defeat a much larger and well-armed foe.


Jesus knows the power of retreat, even retreat on a cross to bring about the greatest strategic win of all time: Redemption.

Yet He often withdrew to deserted places and prayed.

Before daybreak the next morning, Jesus got up and went out to an isolated place to pray.

Then Jesus said, “Let’s go off by ourselves to a quiet place and rest awhile.” He said this because there were so many people coming and going that Jesus and his apostles didn’t even have time to eat.


Jesus knew how to get away, how to get low, and many times he brought His friends with him. He was not afraid of the quiet. He was not unnerved by the isolation. He did not avoid the desert places, because He knew they were strategic. If we look closely at the biblical narrative we will see that many of these “retreats” either preceded or followed a major in-breaking of God. Like healing and crazy deliverances and the deliverance of crazies.

Jesus is my Captain.

He is my example for employing the strategy of retreat. It is there that I gain His perspective on everything that may be going right with my life and everything that may be going so very wrong. I am learning the power of retreat for a season so that I can see better, love better and even when necessary, fight better. I am learning to be ready for another day.

I have put away the hard work of writing for much of the summer.  As much I am compelled to put thoughts to paper or laptop, I felt God say to lay it down for a few weeks. I needed to let some things percolate. I needed to let some things go. I needed to let other things rise to the surface and, by retreating from my normal routine, the way has become a bit clearer.

This summer I have retreated to a wedding, a garden, a stream, a beach, a book, a journal, a closet, a coffee shop, a bench, a couch and the inside of a 20 minute nap. In these retreats, I’ve recovered, repented, re-aligned, re-purposed and re-acquainted myself with what is most needed…listening to the still small, voice of my Captain.

All strategies, these, to ready me for the next time I must engage the fight.

We are all at war. Therefore is imperative that we understand the power of retreat to gain in the quiet places what we cannot in the midst of the battle. It may be the bravest thing we can do.



He will win who knows when to fight and when not to fight… – Sun Tzu in the Art of War.

God Wears Running Shoes

Are you far off?

Do you feel like you are in a distant country wondering how you got so far off the mark?  Are you scratching your head thinking, how did my life come to this?

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Or are you lying down in green pastures? Are you wondering why you have been so blessed despite your failures and frailties and for some, fatherless-ness?


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Then, perhaps, you have met the God who wears running shoes.
Jesus was always telling everyone about this God who runs.

So he got up and came to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion for him, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. Luke 15:20

We can forget this part of God so easily because we can’t seem to get our eyes off the ground…off our stuff.

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We are familiar with looking down aren’t we? We have tipped our chin downward toward the natural state of things, whether it’s what is on ourselves, our neighbors, our iphones.  We miss the wonder that, God, in all of His brilliance and majesty and love, would even think of running toward us.

So he got up…

Four little words hold the key to seeing a running, embracing God.
Four little words propel us to look up past the lack, the what-ifs, the how- comes.
Four little words leads us home to a God who isn’t waiting at the door, but is running toward us.


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Mr. and Mrs. Stevens Go To Japan

I had to put my feet into to it.


I had to feel with my soles what had already been worked into my soul. I took my shoes off on the last day and pushed my feet into grass that was damp and a little bit cold from a late afternoon dew.

Ireland can be like that…damp, cold and gloriously green.


I haven’t gone back, but the ache of returning to a place I hardly know but deeply love lies near the fringe places of my spirit.

My friends, John and Stephanie Stevens know what I mean. They, too, have had an ache for a place they hardly know but deeply love.

My land is called the Emerald Isle. Theirs is called The Land of the Rising Sun. It is called this because from a continental point of view Japan is located in the direction of the sunrise. Yet for the Stevens’ the hope and longing to go there resided in shadow.

At first, it was just to visit. Then, it was to go and pray, maybe to coincide with their 10th wedding anniversary. It was more than a tourist thing.

The desire to go and live with a people group so far away from what they had known growing up in rural Maine was kept near the fringe places during their courtship, their eventual marriage and the raising of their three boys.  It was like being in a dream where the hope of what could be real is slightly out of focus.

Dangling cherry blossom flowers in JapanThere are no words that can do justice to the language of longing. Yet it is longing that, like a pebble buried deep in the ground over time, has a way of coming to the surface of things. It comes out in conversation. It manifests in lifestyle choices like food and literature and movies. It can even show up as artwork on the walls.

In 2012 at Easter time, John and Stephanie realized their dream and visited Japan for a month. It was the year after an earthquake and tsunami unleashed fury on the tiny nation. So much breaking. So much washing away.

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It was on their return trip home that they felt the longing shift.  It was no longer on the periphery. Instead,  Japan and all its wonder and beauty and deep need for Jesus emerged more clearly in view.

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While in Japan,  John and Stephanie had made a connection with Kazuhiko and Andrea Ito, who pastor the Pearl Vineyard Church in Yokohama. This connection proved invaluable as Kaz was able to bring understanding of the culture from a Japanese point of view and his wife Andrea who, being from America, was able to impart a cross-cultural understanding of what it means to live in Japan as a westerner. Thus the threading began.

God’s threads.

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Rural Mainers and Jesus followers typically don’t just up and leave everything like their family, their friends, their home and their ministry to go live in a land where hardly anyone knows Jesus. They don’t usually pack up three little boys all under the age of nine to spend themselves on the behalf of those who didn’t ask for them to come. Rural Mainers most likely have family roots that go back for many generations and those roots don’t come out of the ground easily. There is a cutting away of all that’s familiar.  Yet there is no grafting in without the cutting.  Every good Gardener knows this, therefore every good Gardener carries a sharp knife. He knows pruning yields a greater return.

There is no advancing of God’s kingdom without the letting go of another.

John and Stephanie have been letting go of things these last few months in preparation of grabbing hold of what they believe God has called them to in Japan. From cleaning out their home and putting into storage what they are unable to take with them, to the laying down of their ministry of worship in their local church. Instead they, along with their sons, will become a part of the fabric of the Pearl Vineyard and the city of Yokohama, lending their gifts of worship leading and teaching. In addition,  Stephanie has undergone four surgeries on her feet within the last year in hopes that God will bring healing to an abnormality from birth so she can walk unhindered.

There is a lot of walking to be done in Yokohama.

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It is in community that we are able to get to where we need to be. Even Jesus, on the way where we He needed to be on the cross, asked for his friends to be with him on his last night. Even here He needed the community of friends.

So what is the community connection an Irish girl like me has to all this?  All my life I have been drawn to the Celtic nations because of my Scotch-Irish heritage. I want to live among broken castles and misty mountains. Instead of cherry blossoms, I am more at home in a field of rocks.


Yet, Japan has always been on a fringe place of my life because I have a Japanese name. My father named me Mitsou after a Japanese woman in a film he saw as a young man.  It wasn’t until I was in my thirties that I discovered the name was more than likely Mitsuko. It’s meaning has something to do with light.

Light. Focus. Threads.  This tapestry of nations is the weaving of God.

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What a privilege to be connected in community to the Great Commission, Jesus’ call to go to the nations. Some actually go. Others give to the going. The resources of prayer, money and muscle are what propels the call of God into action.  My friends John and Stephanie have been blessed by the community on so many levels already. As their launch date in July gets closer would you consider lending your prayers, money and muscle toward the final push?

Please check out John and Stephanie’s website at stevenslors.tumblr.com

Click on the tabs to find out more of their story and there is a donate tab if you would like to give.



Between The Sheets: What We Really Need




I laid me down… wanting wanting wanting the in-between place, that place in the middle of awake and asleep where the pillow and the blanket speak a comfort that all is safe and good.

Sixty days without the vulnerability of drifting.

Sixty days without the submission of dreaming.

The heart pound in a middle-aged body out of sync pushed open the door with a bang in the middle of every night for two months dumping a load of anxiety and fear onto the bed like a kid dumps a backpack after a long day at school.

There it sat like a weight in the room. An unwelcome and stubborn mess.

This was no quiet monster under the bed.

When sleep eludes us, when sleep is interrupted we do not feel whole, we do not feel put back together. We were created to sleep well. Upon waking in the morning what is it that we ask our children, our spouses, our guests?

“How did you sleep?”

We are not looking for a literal answer.  What we are really asking is: ” Have you been restored?”  “Have you been renewed, re-charged, replenished for another day?”

Sleep re-orients us  and when we don’t get enough of it we begin to live off-plumb, meaning we are living our lives slightly askew. The sleep-deprived always feel a little off balance, they do life a few degrees off the mark.

As children we fought hard against Winkin’, Blinkin’ and Nod, afraid to miss out on things when we didn’t know that sleep is a gift.

Yet, have we grown wiser with stature when so many of us are sleep deprived still? Must productivity rule the day and the glow of technology steal the night from us because we have to be so connected that we are unable to dis-connect for fear of missing out on things even now?

When sleep is stolen from us due to illness, or put on hold because of babies crying in the night, all we can do is cling to the One who never sleeps, trusting that it will last only a season.

He will not let you be defeated.
    He who guards you never sleeps. Psalm 121:3


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We are all children in our beds. Some of us have our legs splayed and sprawled upon the mattress, others keep limbs tucked up tight near the chest. We drool like babies, our mouths open for maximum sleep breathing. When we wake we are embarrassed that we know this about ourselves.  But it is here, in this vulnerability that we receive our repair. We are in God’s body shop and what was taken apart the day before gets put back together for another day. It is in the morning that we are able to receive our new mercies.

Sleep is a reminder that we’ve come from the ground. We began life lying down and we will end it there. Sleep is like death in that way. We lie down in the green pastures of trust, knowing that God will raise us up again, fully restored, fully renewed, fully equipped to move forward. Sleep re-orients us to where we need to be. It gets us to the other side of things.

When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. Proverbs 3:24

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For encouragement, check out the links below:

James Bryan Smith in A Good and Beautiful God explains how sleep is good for our souls and in a TED talk, Arianna Huffington says it plain.







What’s So Hard About Motherhood?

I am thinking that centuries from now scientists will conclude from all the mommy blogs and Facebook posts, Twitter comments and Instagram photos that motherhood, the mother of all jobs is hard. Really hard.

After all, it’s a fact that millions of moms do not sleep, eat, go to the bathroom, dress or basically function like a human being until their children have grasped a mother’s screeching lament in these seven basic words: “Please leave me alone for five minutes!”

At the risk of receiving The Mommy Death Stare right now (all women on the planet know what I’m talking about. Come to think of it, all men on the planet know what I’m talking about right now), I am here to say that motherhood is not at all hard in the way we like to complain about.

I am not talking about wayward children hard, or tragedy hard. This is about the regular day-to-day routine of life that goes into caring for a child.

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Poverty is hard.
Caring for a parent with Alzheimer’s is hard.
Living with chronic pain is hard.
Planting a field in a drought is hard.

I have never broken a sweat changing a diaper or car pooling a kid to their first job. I did not become ill from lack of sleep or build my biceps scrubbing crayon marks from a newly painted wall. I did almost break my toe stepping on a LEGO. I remember I was more upset about yet another mess on the floor and how dare someone not realize I would be walking on that part of the carpet at that moment in time carrying a load of perfectly folded baby laundry that no one would see except me and my fantasies of being the best mother ever,  than I was about the throbbing pain shooting up through my heel.

Motherhood isn’t hard in the way we may think or maybe even blog about. It  isn’t about all the dishes and the endless diapers and projectile demands.

What is more true is that motherhood is inconvenient.


Inconvenience interrupts the status quo in a way that hurts.   It delivers a blow to the inside parts of me. It is the hard scraping against my will. It is the push against my own comforts. Inconvenience is the tug-of-war of timetables….mine against everyone else’s.


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I once told my children they were coloring too loudly.

This incident made the Top Ten List of my worst parenting moments, by the way.

I was expecting my fourth or fifth child and I desperately wanted a catnap. After the regular routine of breakfast, chores and then lunch, I was spent.  I was, after all, lugging around an extra twenty-five pounds and I wanted silence. A little peace and quiet.

One hundred percent peace and quiet, apparently.

I was frayed to the very edges of my little pea brain for the deafening sound of crayons scraping against the box along with the ear splitting swish of the coloring book pages proved too much for me and I log rolled to the edge of the couch and whisper-hissed to my children, “Will you please stop coloring so loudly!”

My oldest son stared at me, his crayon clad fingers frozen mid-air. It was in  that moment I knew exactly what the poor lad was thinking:

“My mother has completely lost it. And…she’s selfish.”

The inconvenience of motherhood has been my greatest and most painful teacher.  I am inclined to preserve all things to do with my self and motherhood set me up to destroy that self-preservation.  It was hard core love, really. That was the set-up.

Hard-core love for five precious babies that inconvenienced me in a thousand different ways and taught me the value of getting low for the sake of someone else. Sometimes the inconvenience leads us to recognize our children’s place in the world. Sometimes it’s when you spend hours carting band equipment or watching yet another film production. Sometimes it’s trying to understand the art form of fashion. Sometimes it’s holding a three tiered wedding cake in the back of the van or a baby born quickly because you’ve suddenly become a birthing coach.

A day’s journey from Jerusalem left another mother inconvenienced, too, when she and her husband discovered their son was not with them. Three days it took to find him. After back tracking, they found him with the learned men in the temple, amazing everyone with his understanding of spiritual matters. But this part was lost on his poor mom, who admonished the boy Jesus:

Son, why have you treated us so? Behold, your father and I have been looking for you anxiously.”

And he said to them, “Why have you sought me so? Did you not know that I must be in my Father’s house?

It’s like he was saying, “Why did you even have to go looking for me in the first place? If you’d known anything about me, you would have known where I would always be found….doing what I was created to do.

I have missed things like this when I’ve focused on the inconvenience. Sadly, I missed some growth moments…some aha moments because I lamented the inconvenience instead.

Motherhood is hard, inconveniently hard.

Just don’t let anyone tell you it’s about the dishes and the carpools and the empty refrigerator and the mountains of laundry. That stuff is regular life.

Motherhood is about getting low for the sake a child, helping them find their place in their Father’s house.  The truth is it can only happen through the refiner’s fire of inconvenience.







We Are All Thieves

It must have taken all the strength he had left to reach for the One in the middle.  A thief reaching reaching reaching with his eyes because the rest of his body was nailed to a crossbeam too.

He did not reach for a pardon.
He did not reach for understanding.
He didn’t even reach for forgiveness.
All he reached for was remembrance.

“Jesus, remember me when You come into Your kingdom.”

It was a faith believing, death-defying reaching into the reality of a Kingdom only a lamb’s breath away and this thief wanted in. He put all of his faith and belief in simply asking, “remember me.”
He somehow knew that in the remembering, the Lamb that took away the sins of the world would claim him as His own, and he too would know another Kingdom very soon.

Isn’t this what we are all asking for….to be remembered and claimed?

We are all thieves at some point, are we not?
We have stolen identities, or crafted images of ourselves on social media, or pretended and forged our way through life on some level because we are terrified we will be found out for what we really are….broken people in need of fixing.

There was another thief.  Instead of asking, he demanded. Instead of reaching, he hurled and spewed.  He wanted the show, the grand gesture:  
“Are you not the Christ? Save yourself and us!

Yet, it the one who agrees with his desperate need and recognizes who is before him, then dares…actually dares to ask…it this one who is remembered and washed and made new and restored to wholeness forever.
No matter it is a thief doing the asking.

We are all in need of remembrance.

Our reaching need not be very far.

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